This title is slightly tongue and cheek in that the very idea of speed and wanting to get rid of something within ourselves is the voice of trauma itself. And when the suffering is so great then it’s a natural response in a society that is so fragmented and confused to want to be free of it. but the paradox is the very act of pushing to get rid of is what keeps the issue we want released in place!
So lets explore what can help us be with those difficult feelings and parts of ourselves that feel so unbearable to be with.
What would it be like if we could be our own best friend or imagine a good friend supporting and loving that part of ourselves?
someone or something (human, divine spirit, animal, plant etc) that embodies
love and compassion and commitment to what we are with.
What if we could be with this part of ourselves with no agenda?
that if we don’t slam the door to that little one within ourself. That we can allow ourselves to acknowledge ‘oh this is the younger me, This is a small child that endured this, no wonder the emotions and experience feels so big. can I be kind?
Often the act of seeing ourselves as a young one, and that’s mostly where these trauma responses come from, can already start to help us bring more compassion and space between ourselves and the strong feelings or critical voices within.
How would it be if we could see healing in a different way. That we no longer viewed what we are with as a problem, that it is wrong and needs to be cut out of ourselves. What if we were to approach what we are with inquisitiveness? a different way to what we’e always known.
‘oh Something is showing up, something wants to be heard something wants to be felt, there is something very important here and i want to get to know it. lets not make those part of ourselves wrong and pathologize ourselves adding to the endless abandoned exiles in the world. What if we can be the revolution and offer warmth and open hearted curiosity to what ever we are experiencing within our body. Make a home for these lost souls within ourself.
these emotions and sensations often come along when we feel safe enough. The material starts to surface when we are ready even if we don’t feel like we are some part of us is. And if we were educated on this we would be able to immediately get curious and not tell ourselves we are less than or there is a problem amd add more weight and suffering to the issue. We could instead realise we are now ready to be with this material and this is our growth and healing. That This is our path to becoming whole.
if we are willing to this work and dedicate ourselves to this path then it’s such a service we are offering to ourselves, our ancestors and the planet.
So remember what ever is coming up is not wrong. It also doesn’t mean you have to live with it forever. The irony is, when we are able to turn towards the uncomfortable feeling with no agenda, with love and curiousity then it naturally changes and transmutes. It’s just waiting for us to feel it not reject it.
What if the fastest way to healing is to be the best friend of the pieces of ourselves that we have disowned and that can start with being the best friend of the part of ourselves that doesn’t want to do that or go there or feel it!